Registration is now closed for the Winter 2019
Roller Coaster Relationship Recovery Online Intensive!
Presenting
The
Roller Coaster Relationship Recovery Online Intensive
Five weeks of life-changing training, coaching, and support
with
Amber Ault, Ph.D., MSW
Thursdays, February 21 - March 21
5:30 pm US Pacific * 7:30 pm US Central Time * 9:30 pm US Eastern Time
75 minutes each week
Weekly audio lessons; weekly live web class & coaching
Classes recorded for your review
Course capacity: 13 students
~"The information in the audios was so powerful that I could not help applying it to my life. The weekly call was basically riveting. I have now a deeper sense of self worth which is beyond precious and the tools to protect my self and my life. I have much hope about walking away from old defeating relationship patterns and creating a happier future for myself."
~ RRR participant, Spring 2017
..ARE YOU IN OR RECOVERING FROM A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP?
The Roller Coaster Relationship Recovery Online Intensive is designed especially for people struggling with toxic relationship patterns. You may feel stuck in a difficult, dramatic, or exploitive relationship; you may be dealing with the aftermath and fallout of atoxic entanglement with someone who could be described as narcissistic, anti-social, psychopathic, or having Borderline Personality Disorder; you may have put a toxic relationships behind you but remain afraid to love again. The Roller Coaster Relationship Recovery Online Intensive offers you the information, skills, and coaching you need to develop clarity about the root of your toxic relationship struggles and the skills and confidence to transform your relationship patterns.
What Are Toxic Relationship Dynamics?
Your relationship is toxic if it includes any of these elements:
Multiple dramatic break up/make up cycles
Controlling behaviors
Deception & manipulation
Entrenched habits of criticism, defensiveness,contempt, stonewalling
Mixed messages, changing standards, broken agreements
Intimidation and fear
More time spent on "fixing" the relationship than enjoying each other
Financial or energetic exploitation
Emotional, intellectual, and verbal abuse
Physical or sexual abuse
How Will The Roller Coaster Relationship Recovery Intensive Help?
Here's what previous recent class participants say:
~ "I am deeply embroiled in trying to extricate myself from a decade long toxic situation. There truly is strong love there, but with little hope of "working things through,"disembarking from this toll taking ride is the wisest step to take...for both of us. I could not hang on and do what I must with out this course and its information and guidance. Thank you." ~
~ "I understand better the pitfalls that can happen and pull me back in. It's given me more awareness and confidence that being out of this toxic relationship is the best thing for sure. It helps me grasp just how toxic my relationship was." ~
~ "I am recognizing patterns in my previous relationship that are helpful for me to completing the process of letting go." ~
~ "While I had started the process of healing from the abusive situation I was in, the course makes the point to me more concrete, The fact that one of the instructors has gone through a similar situation so she knows first hand what it like." ~
Here's what you need to know:
Whether you are currently in a troubling relationship and contemplating leaving, or have a history of participating in dramatic, toxic, or unsatisfying relationships and are working on recovering and avoiding repeating this pattern, this intensive online course will help you remove your barriers to love, improve your ability to recognize both problematic and great matches, take empowered action in your relationship life, and think more clearly about the foundations for happy, healthy relationships.
Most of us didn't have the benefit of seeing models of happy, healthy relationships growing up. As a result, many of us have not had the support we needed around cultivating mature understandings of healthy adult relationships. In the absence of solid relationship information, strong skills, and deep insights, many of us have experienced relationship entanglement patterns in which we have mistaken intensity, sympathy or rescuing, or even intrusive boundary violations for love and romance. Once entangled, we have allowed ourselves to get stuck in difficult relationships as a result of fear, obligation, guilt, or misplaced hope that if we "just figure out how to do the right thing" our partner will restore the loving behaviors they offered us in the beginning.
It is completely possible to end this kind of relationship pain and drama!
The The Roller Coaster Relationship Recovery online intensive is designed to help you cultivate the clarity, skills, and commitments you need to transform your relationship life to be free of toxic drama and enriched with empowering, mature skills that allow you to create the love life and relationships you dream of having.
And because The Roller Coaster Relationship Recovery online intensive includes both five weeks of audio lessons and live weekly coaching with Amber Ault, you will receive both course material you can access again and again and individualized and group coaching during our weekly calls. This summer's special edition of The Roller Coaster Relationship Recovery Seminar downloadable course is supplemented with five weekly live coaching calls with Amber especially dedicated to meeting the needs of survivors of toxic relationships. I am dedicated to helping you accelerate your movement into the clarity, freedom, ease, and confidence you desire in your relationship life.
"I wish I had this information and understanding several years ago. It would have saved me a lot of pain and heartache."
The Roller Coaster Relationship Recovery online intensive will offer you information, insights, skills, and clarity around:
*Establishing and communicating your standards and boundaries in assertive, effective ways
*Identifying toxic relationship warning signals that show up in the dating process
*Subtle and overt forms of emotional abuse
*Reasons you may be vulnerable to romantic entanglements
*Skills and practices to prevent, reduce, or end emotional drama, manipulation, and abuse
*How to let go of the fear, obligation, guilt, and rescuing that keeps you stuck
*Skills and practices to use in recovering from a toxic relationship or a longstanding pattern of emotional entanglement
*What it means if a mental health professional has suggested that the woman you are involved with has a personality disorder
*Insights, skills, and practices to enhance your ability to connect with prospective partners who will treat you with respect and kindness and who will value, celebrate, and protect a happy, loving connection with you.
Thursdays, February 21 -March 21, 2019
Weekly audio Lessons about toxic relationship patterns
Live class and coaching sessions with Amber
7:30 -8:15 pm Central Time, 8:30 - 9:45 pm Eastern Time US Zone, 5:30-6:45 Pacific Time
$249.00
(Accessible from everywhere there's internet access. Time zones vary.)
Because of the intimate nature of the work, space is limited to 13 participants. Registration will close when we reach capacity.
About Registering
Spaces are reserved on a first-come/first registered basis. Participation is through advanced registration only. To ensure a powerful experience for everyone, registration will be limited to 13 participants. I hope you'll be among those who make that commitment to yourself, your love life, and developing the skills you need to create the relationships you dream of having.
Spaces are reserved on a first-come/first registered basis. Participation is through advanced registration only. To ensure a powerful experience for everyone, registration will be limited to 13 participants. I hope you'll be among those who make that commitment to yourself, your love life, and developing the skills you need to create the relationships you dream of having.
About Amber Ault, Ph.D., MSW
Amber Ault, Ph.D., MSW is a sociologist and psychotherapist. She coaches people across the globe on understanding crazy-making relationships and offers them practices that empower them to move into lives infused with love, ease, confidence, and creative delight. Amber is the author of The Wise Lesbian Guide to Getting Free From Crazy-Making Relationships, The Five Step Exit: Skills You Need to Leave a Psychopath, Narcissist, or Other Toxic Person and Recover Your Happiness Now, and the forthcoming Wise Lesbian Guide to Love. Her academic work includes research on lesbian, bi, and trans experience/s, including a Ph.D. dissertation on lesbian and bisexual women's identity formation during the early years of the AIDS crisis, articles on lesbian and bi identities, hate crimes, and Gender Identity Disorder as mental health diagnosis. She has written for The Washington Blade, Our Lives Magazine, and other LGBT outlets, and served as the first producer of the LGBT radio show, Queery.
More about Amber at www.amberault.com
More about Amber at www.amberault.com
Frequently Asked Questions
What's the difference between a relationship that has problems and a toxic relationship?
Many relationships include differences between partners about a range of issues: money, sex, and housework are classic areas requiring negotiation for many couples; whether and when to have children, whether and when to legally marry, when or whether to become exclusive, whether to commit to a long-term relationship and whether that will be monogamous, poly, open, or evolving, where to live, and other issues are also questions couples face. The difference between healthy and toxic relationships generally involves how couples treat each other, whether in the context of sorting out differences or in the context of every day life. In healthy relationships, partners navigate challenges and differences with respect for both/all people; they operate with transparency; they express and advocate for their own interests but they also care about their partner's needs being met. There's a "let's ask how we can work this out for both of us" approach to differences, as well as a commitment to clearing out anything that gets in the way of intimacy, connection, and commitment. In toxic relationships, people feel "on edge," disrespected, belittled, afraid, confused, and/or exploited. People in great relationships experience challenges, like everyone else, but because of the functioning of the couple, challenges don't have to become problems; in toxic relationships, minor or non-existent differences become over-dramatized; blame, shame, and criticism are common; deception, distance, and drama make it hard to relax, feel happy, and enjoy your time with your partner --- or your time by yourself. Hurt feelings are rarely healed; difficult interactions are rarely repaired; problems are rarely resolved; and when they are, the next drama is often right around the bend.
What are the signs I'm in a toxic relationship?
People in toxic relationships spend a lot of time worrying about "what's wrong" --- with their relationship, their partner, or themselves. They often feel on edge or as though they are "walking on egg shells." The messages their partner sends them are often very mixed ---- "come here/go away;" "I hate you/don't leave me;" "let's break up/let's get married" --- are common mixed messages. In some toxic relationships, one partner monitors another's coming and goings, friendship connections, and social media behavior, criticizes, shames, or humiliates them privately or in public, or "gas lights" them by misrepresenting reality in various ways. Often, toxic relationships start with very intense "love bombing;" when this ends, the memory of it can be used to manipulate you into a range of behaviors you hope will restore your partner's exquisite attention. As a result, in a toxic relationship, you may long for "how my partner used to be" rather than being able to enjoy her and your relationship as it is now --- because in the present, you live in tension, uneasiness, confusion, exhaustion and fear.
How will the RRR online intensive help me?
Whether you are in a toxic relationship or a relationship you worry may become toxic, or single and considering preparing to date after a toxic relationship has ended, the RRR online intensive will give you the tools you need to see your situation clearly, to transform your love life so that you experience the peaceful, loving relationships you long for, and to cultivate the confidence that you do indeed deserve relationship happiness.
~"Thank you! I have been setting amazing boundaries. It feels like a miracle! I recognized some red flags in the person I was going to go on a date with too and cancelled! Life is looking up Thanks so much for this course. It is a game changer for me!" ~
~ "Without this course, I would still be mired in a toxic dynamic with my ex. It’s really accelerated my recovery and allowed me to be ready to connect with someone healthy.
Many relationships include differences between partners about a range of issues: money, sex, and housework are classic areas requiring negotiation for many couples; whether and when to have children, whether and when to legally marry, when or whether to become exclusive, whether to commit to a long-term relationship and whether that will be monogamous, poly, open, or evolving, where to live, and other issues are also questions couples face. The difference between healthy and toxic relationships generally involves how couples treat each other, whether in the context of sorting out differences or in the context of every day life. In healthy relationships, partners navigate challenges and differences with respect for both/all people; they operate with transparency; they express and advocate for their own interests but they also care about their partner's needs being met. There's a "let's ask how we can work this out for both of us" approach to differences, as well as a commitment to clearing out anything that gets in the way of intimacy, connection, and commitment. In toxic relationships, people feel "on edge," disrespected, belittled, afraid, confused, and/or exploited. People in great relationships experience challenges, like everyone else, but because of the functioning of the couple, challenges don't have to become problems; in toxic relationships, minor or non-existent differences become over-dramatized; blame, shame, and criticism are common; deception, distance, and drama make it hard to relax, feel happy, and enjoy your time with your partner --- or your time by yourself. Hurt feelings are rarely healed; difficult interactions are rarely repaired; problems are rarely resolved; and when they are, the next drama is often right around the bend.
What are the signs I'm in a toxic relationship?
People in toxic relationships spend a lot of time worrying about "what's wrong" --- with their relationship, their partner, or themselves. They often feel on edge or as though they are "walking on egg shells." The messages their partner sends them are often very mixed ---- "come here/go away;" "I hate you/don't leave me;" "let's break up/let's get married" --- are common mixed messages. In some toxic relationships, one partner monitors another's coming and goings, friendship connections, and social media behavior, criticizes, shames, or humiliates them privately or in public, or "gas lights" them by misrepresenting reality in various ways. Often, toxic relationships start with very intense "love bombing;" when this ends, the memory of it can be used to manipulate you into a range of behaviors you hope will restore your partner's exquisite attention. As a result, in a toxic relationship, you may long for "how my partner used to be" rather than being able to enjoy her and your relationship as it is now --- because in the present, you live in tension, uneasiness, confusion, exhaustion and fear.
How will the RRR online intensive help me?
Whether you are in a toxic relationship or a relationship you worry may become toxic, or single and considering preparing to date after a toxic relationship has ended, the RRR online intensive will give you the tools you need to see your situation clearly, to transform your love life so that you experience the peaceful, loving relationships you long for, and to cultivate the confidence that you do indeed deserve relationship happiness.
~"Thank you! I have been setting amazing boundaries. It feels like a miracle! I recognized some red flags in the person I was going to go on a date with too and cancelled! Life is looking up Thanks so much for this course. It is a game changer for me!" ~
~ "Without this course, I would still be mired in a toxic dynamic with my ex. It’s really accelerated my recovery and allowed me to be ready to connect with someone healthy.
