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Are you recovering from a toxic relationship?
The Lesbian & Queer Women's Roller Coaster Relationship Recovery Online Intensive is designed especially for lesbian and queer women struggling with toxic relationship patterns.
The Lesbian & Queer Women's Roller Coaster Relationship Recovery Online Intensive offers you the information, skills, and coaching you need to develop clarity about the root of your toxic relationship struggles and the skills and confidence to transform your relationship patterns.
The Lesbian & Queer Women's Roller Coaster Relationship Recovery Online Intensive offers you the information, skills, and coaching you need to develop clarity about the root of your toxic relationship struggles and the skills and confidence to transform your relationship patterns.
What are toxic relationship dynamics?
Your relationship may be toxic if it includes any of these elements:
Multiple dramatic break up/make up cycles
Controlling behaviors
Deception and manipulation
Entrenched habits of criticism, defensiveness,contempt, stonewalling
Mixed messages, changing standards, broken agreements
Intimidation and fear
More time spent on "fixing" the relationship than enjoying each other
Financial or energetic exploitation
Emotional, intellectual, and verbal abuse
Physical or sexual abuse
How will the Roller Coaster Relationship Recovery Online Intensive For LGBTQ women help?
Here's what recent class participants say:
Here's what we say:
It is completely possible to end this kind of relationship pain and drama!
The Lesbian & Queer Women's Roller Coaster Relationship Recovery Online Intensive is designed to help lesbian, bi, and queer-identified women cultivate the clarity, skills, and commitments you need to transform your relationship life to be free of toxic drama and enriched with empowering, mature skills that allow you to create the love life and relationships you dream of having.
And because The Lesbian & Queer Women's Roller Coaster Relationship Recovery Online Intensive includes both five weeks of audio lessons and live weekly coaching with Amber Ault and Ruth Schwartz, you will receive both course material you can access again and again and individualized and group coaching during our weekly calls. This fall's special edition of The Roller Coaster Relationship Recovery Seminar downloadable course is supplemented with five weekly live coaching calls with Amber & Ruth especially dedicated to meeting the needs of lesbian and queer women. We are dedicated to helping you accelerate your movement into the clarity, freedom, ease, and confidence you desire in your relationship life.
The Lesbian & Queer Women's Roller Coaster Relationship Recovery Online Intensive is designed to help lesbian, bi, and queer-identified women cultivate the clarity, skills, and commitments you need to transform your relationship life to be free of toxic drama and enriched with empowering, mature skills that allow you to create the love life and relationships you dream of having.
And because The Lesbian & Queer Women's Roller Coaster Relationship Recovery Online Intensive includes both five weeks of audio lessons and live weekly coaching with Amber Ault and Ruth Schwartz, you will receive both course material you can access again and again and individualized and group coaching during our weekly calls. This fall's special edition of The Roller Coaster Relationship Recovery Seminar downloadable course is supplemented with five weekly live coaching calls with Amber & Ruth especially dedicated to meeting the needs of lesbian and queer women. We are dedicated to helping you accelerate your movement into the clarity, freedom, ease, and confidence you desire in your relationship life.
Ready for the shift you need?
The Lesbian & Queer Women's Roller Coaster Relationship Recovery Online Intensive will offer you information, insights, skills, and clarity around:
- Establishing and communicating your standards and boundaries in assertive, effective ways
- Identifying toxic relationship warning signals that show up in the dating process
- Subtle and overt forms of emotional abuse
- Reasons you may be vulnerable to romantic entanglements
- Skills and practices to prevent, reduce, or end emotional drama, manipulation, and abuse
- How to let go of the fear, obligation, guilt, and rescuing that keeps you stuck
- Skills and practices to use in recovering from a toxic relationship or a longstanding pattern of emotional entanglement
- What it means if a mental health professional has suggested that the woman you are involved with has a personality disorder
- Insights, skills, and practices to enhance your ability to connect with prospective partners who will treat you with respect and kindness and who will value, celebrate, and protect a happy, loving connection with you.
Returning Fall 2018 !
Watch for registration tuition details here!
Spaces are reserved on a first-come/first registered basis. Participation is through advanced registration only. To ensure a powerful experience for everyone, registration will be limited to 13 participants. We hope you'll be among those who make that commitment to yourself, your love life, and developing the skills you need to create the relationships you dream of having.
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Why do you need coaching on your dating life?
How Oppression Makes LGBTQ People Especially Vulnerable to Toxic Relationships
The dating and relationship lives of many LGBT people have been shaped by an absence of role models for healthy, happy partnerships. This event offers women the opportunity to meet in an alcohol-free space, a space not mediated by computer screens, a space in which each person signals, by their presence there, a commitment to creating more connection and having more ease, enjoyment, and love in their life.
It's both important and possible to reconfigure your love life, to learn new skills that lay the foundations for great relationships, and to make empowered decisions about dating, sexuality, partnering, and marriage. Global Lesbian Love Lab events and resources offer you both the tools and the opportunities to claim a better, happier, more empowered love life for yourself.
The first step is knowing that you want something different. The second step is doing something different from what you've done before. We welcome you to make The Roller Coaster Relationship Recovery Seminar part of your process for transforming your dating and relationship life.
It's both important and possible to reconfigure your love life, to learn new skills that lay the foundations for great relationships, and to make empowered decisions about dating, sexuality, partnering, and marriage. Global Lesbian Love Lab events and resources offer you both the tools and the opportunities to claim a better, happier, more empowered love life for yourself.
The first step is knowing that you want something different. The second step is doing something different from what you've done before. We welcome you to make The Roller Coaster Relationship Recovery Seminar part of your process for transforming your dating and relationship life.
Frequently Asked Questions
What's the difference between a relationship that has problems and a toxic relationship?
Many relationships include differences between partners about a range of issues: money, sex, and housework are classic areas requiring negotiation for many couples; whether and when to have children, whether and when to legally marry, how "out" to be and to whom, when or whether to become exclusive, whether to commit to a long-term relationship and whether that will be monogamous, poly, open, or evolving, where to live, and other issues are also questions couples face. The difference between healthy and toxic relationships generally involves how couples treat each other, whether in the context of sorting out differences or in the context of every day life. In healthy relationships, partners navigate challenges and differences with respect for both/all people; they operate with transparency; they express and advocate for their own interests but they also care about their partner's needs being met. There's a "let's ask how we can work this out for both of us" approach to differences, as well as a commitment to clearing out anything that gets in the way of intimacy, connection, and commitment. In toxic relationships, people feel "on edge," disrespected, belittled, afraid, confused, and/or exploited. People in great relationships experience challenges, like everyone else, but because of the functioning of the couple, challenges don't have to become problems; in toxic relationships, minor or non-existent differences become over-dramatized; blame, shame, and criticism are common; deception, distance, and drama make it hard to relax, feel happy, and enjoy your time with your partner - or your time by yourself. Hurt feelings are rarely healed; difficult interactions are rarely repaired; problems are rarely resolved; and when they are, the next drama is often right around the bend.
What are the signs I'm in a toxic relationship?
People in toxic relationships spend a lot of time worrying about "what's wrong" - with their relationship, their partner, or themselves. They often feel on edge or as though they are "walking on egg shells." The messages their partner sends them are often very mixed - "come here/go away;" "I hate you/don't leave me;" "let's break up/let's get married" - are common mixed messages. In some toxic relationships, one partner monitors another's coming and goings, friendship connections, and social media behavior, criticizes, shames, or humiliates them privately or in public, or "gas lights" them by misrepresenting reality in various ways. Often, toxic relationships start with very intense "love bombing;" when this ends, the memory of it can be used to manipulate you into a range of behaviors you hope will restore your partner's exquisite attention. As a result, in a toxic relationship, you may long for "how my partner used to be" rather than being able to enjoy her and your relationship as it is now - because in the present, you live in tension, uneasiness, confusion, exhaustion and fear.
How will the RRR online intensive for lesbians and queer women help me?
Whether you are in a toxic relationship or a relationship you worry may become toxic, or single and considering preparing to date after a toxic relationship has ended, the RRR online intensive will give you the tools you need to see your situation clearly, to transform your love life so that you experience the peaceful, loving relationships you long for, and to cultivate the confidence that you do indeed deserve relationship happiness.
Many relationships include differences between partners about a range of issues: money, sex, and housework are classic areas requiring negotiation for many couples; whether and when to have children, whether and when to legally marry, how "out" to be and to whom, when or whether to become exclusive, whether to commit to a long-term relationship and whether that will be monogamous, poly, open, or evolving, where to live, and other issues are also questions couples face. The difference between healthy and toxic relationships generally involves how couples treat each other, whether in the context of sorting out differences or in the context of every day life. In healthy relationships, partners navigate challenges and differences with respect for both/all people; they operate with transparency; they express and advocate for their own interests but they also care about their partner's needs being met. There's a "let's ask how we can work this out for both of us" approach to differences, as well as a commitment to clearing out anything that gets in the way of intimacy, connection, and commitment. In toxic relationships, people feel "on edge," disrespected, belittled, afraid, confused, and/or exploited. People in great relationships experience challenges, like everyone else, but because of the functioning of the couple, challenges don't have to become problems; in toxic relationships, minor or non-existent differences become over-dramatized; blame, shame, and criticism are common; deception, distance, and drama make it hard to relax, feel happy, and enjoy your time with your partner - or your time by yourself. Hurt feelings are rarely healed; difficult interactions are rarely repaired; problems are rarely resolved; and when they are, the next drama is often right around the bend.
What are the signs I'm in a toxic relationship?
People in toxic relationships spend a lot of time worrying about "what's wrong" - with their relationship, their partner, or themselves. They often feel on edge or as though they are "walking on egg shells." The messages their partner sends them are often very mixed - "come here/go away;" "I hate you/don't leave me;" "let's break up/let's get married" - are common mixed messages. In some toxic relationships, one partner monitors another's coming and goings, friendship connections, and social media behavior, criticizes, shames, or humiliates them privately or in public, or "gas lights" them by misrepresenting reality in various ways. Often, toxic relationships start with very intense "love bombing;" when this ends, the memory of it can be used to manipulate you into a range of behaviors you hope will restore your partner's exquisite attention. As a result, in a toxic relationship, you may long for "how my partner used to be" rather than being able to enjoy her and your relationship as it is now - because in the present, you live in tension, uneasiness, confusion, exhaustion and fear.
How will the RRR online intensive for lesbians and queer women help me?
Whether you are in a toxic relationship or a relationship you worry may become toxic, or single and considering preparing to date after a toxic relationship has ended, the RRR online intensive will give you the tools you need to see your situation clearly, to transform your love life so that you experience the peaceful, loving relationships you long for, and to cultivate the confidence that you do indeed deserve relationship happiness.
